![]() Other times, we simply need to approach a challenge from a different perspective. Sometimes we need to change so we can grow. The important part is how we go about solving problems and changing our thought patterns. There will always be challenges to overcome. Practice Problem Solving and Making Changes ![]() it is also fun! Activities don’t need to be structured, but they do need to be active and enjoyable.ħ. Getting them out on their skateboard, scooter or bike is essential. (My son loves to point up into the sky in the early evening when the moon and stars are just becoming visible and say “moooooon!” and “star!” over and over.) In such a busy world it’s always tempting to stay connected and always “on.” We need to hit the pause button every now and then.īy living in the moment, we can enjoy the simple things in life – like gazing at the moon or looking up at the stars. Take time out to just relax and rejuvenate. While I am not 100% convinced of this, I do believe that too many activities can make kids stressed. I once came across a suggestion that parents could be over-scheduling their children’s lives in order to fill a void in their own lives. ![]() Teach your child how to think (but not what to think) in positive and constructive ways, and try to reframe negative thought patterns into more productive or ‘better’ thoughts.ĭon’t over-schedule activities. Kids are like little sponges they absorb everything from the adults in their environment – both good and bad. This doesn’t mean having ‘perfect’ relationships or always being happy, but it does mean making an effort to be a good role model for your child. Which means you need to have a reasonable level of stability in your life. If you want your child to thrive you need to firstly model the desired behaviour. So how can you teach your child how to thrive? The reason for this is that we first need to focus on their strengths so we can then use these positive qualities to help them resolve their current issues.īut my ultimate goal in counselling is not just to help kids learn to survive or get through a ‘rough patch’ … My aim is always to help kids learn how to thrive. I often start by asking them what is actually working well at the moment. Something has gone wrong and help is needed. Similarly, when parents first bring their children to see me for counselling, they are often in a crisis situation. I had to learn how to survive as a parent before I could even start thinking about how to thrive again… It was a huge change and no amount of reading or advice from other parents could have fully prepared me for the months that followed. This article reminded me that when my son Charlie was born (he’s 19 months-old now), I definitely went into survival mode! It took some time to adjust to the reality of being a new mother. The author mentioned research from more than 10 years ago that suggested only around 17% of adults were thriving and the rest were merely surviving. A recent article in The Age, “ Are you surviving or thriving?”, resonated with me this week. ![]()
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